Unfortunate events sometimes have to happen for us to open our eyes. On August 5, 2013, one of my friends and a very close friend and family to quite a few of my friends; Millie Gears passed away unexpectedly. It has taken our small second life community in shock and we grieve for her, miss her and continue to carry her with us in our hearts. It is with a heavy heart that I even write this right now and if there is one thing I can say about Millie is she was inspiring. She always had something hilarious and sarcastic to say. She was never afraid to call us out on things and she was as loyal as any friend comes. In many ways, Millie will be with us and the reaction on plurk has been both touching and awe inspiring that we can come together as a community and push past anything that has happened and focus on the one thing that matters, the passing of a wonderful person that left our world way too soon.
In retrospect to that; I present you this challenge. Challenge Yourself. In honor of Millie Gears. She reminds us of one thing, that we should be thankful. Thankful for something no matter how big or small it may seem. Something that keeps us turning, living, breathing. To be thankful and to improve on our faults. We all have one, we all recognize something that is wrong with us and tonight I was made very aware of a big one I have. This is something I’m going to try to do every month for a year, something to be thankful for, progress of the thing you wanted to improve on. Every month on the 5th I will try to post this and I hope that you, in celebration of Millie Gear’s life joins me in this. It’s easy to focus on this now this month because it’s fresh and new. It’s the months that progress that things start to fall back into a routine and it’s up to us to not let it be a routine anymore. It’s up to us to remember, to be thankful and humble and improve.
Thankful. I am thankful for life. I am thankful for every day that I wake up, I take a breath, I speak to someone I truly love and care about. I am thankful that I can be here with such wonderful people and surround myself with beauty and positivity. It’s easy sometimes to let ourselves go into the negative and to focus on it. It’s a real challenge to remember that there is a light, a positive to every negative. I am thankful for life and for every day past, present and future that is presented to me. My picture the golden orb represents life that glows and lives through us. Our tears and our grieving for a lost friend in respect for them.
Improving. I have always been a person that is really bad with communication. When I meet new friends, I tend to sometimes forget to check in on my old ones, the ones that have been there all along. I’ve recently done this to three people that I really care about. Three people who have been there through every roller coaster, sad, happiness, every time that I needed them they have been there. It’s easy to get excited and lost into friends, something new and shiny. I vow to be better at communicating, to not forget, to check in to be there and to keep to my promises. It’s not something that I will be able to fix in a month, two months, it’s something that’s going to be a constant battle but I will try my hardest to keep to my word. To be mindful of other’s feelings and to take a moment to think; is this selfish? Is there something I’m missing? Am I assuming? Assumption is a lot of our problem, never assume. From personal experience it never leads to anything good. Be better, strive to be better, to improve and I promise to do just that. Keep moving forward.
One of my very good friends Peyton posted something inspiring on his Plurk today:
“Good morning all.. I know I haven’t been the best friend, brother, uncle, cousin, god kid, god brother, son, father, or whatever else I am to you. I haven’t been the person you deserve and after yesterday I vow to try to do better.. To be more open, to talk to all my friends, new and old..
Life is too short to be alone.. You never know when it could end and.. And I want to be a better person like the one I should be to you..
I want you all to do the same.. Talk to your old friends, make new friends, patch up old friendships, and stop fighting about petty drama and bullshit… If we can learn anything from the passing of our dear friend let it be that.. Just be a great friend like Millie was to all of us. There’s no need to hate any one in our community..
You may have had issues in the past, but you also had good times, and if the person ever leaves you’ll be kicking yourself you couldn’t have became friends again, or forgave each other.. We’re a strong and close community, let’s keep it that way and become stronger through this. I love you all. If I haven’t said it recently to you I’m sorry, I love you too. Please, let’s try to turn this into a positive thing.. I want everyone that reads this to reach out to someone that they haven’t in a while ..
If you talk to all your friends, try to make a new one or fix up a broken one.. Thank you for listening.“
And he is right, every word. Forget about the pettiness, look past it, life is too short to be filled with so much hate. Forgiveness makes us better people, it makes us human. We take the silliest things for granted, make the biggest deal out of the smallest things but it’s one time something happens that we realize how selfish we are as human beings and how we truly don’t cherish what has been in front of us this entire time.
I read one more inspiring thing on plurk, the most true words that I will never forget. Memories of people, they live through another. Delaney will be that person to us, that person that reminds us of Millie’s laughter, her silly jokes for everything that Millie was, we live through her memory by Delaney’s constant reminder. I’m sorry for everyone who was close to her, who loved her as much as I did and I’m sorry for her family, for Delaney, for Abby, for everyone. I love you all and I’m so thankful to know you and have known Millie. May she live on through her hearts, tears and laughter and may her memory fill us with the joy as her presence did.
Feel free to add your pictures to the Flickr group I created for this challenge: Challenge Yourself: Be Thankful & Improve
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